One Step At A Time


No matter the task at hand if it ever feels like a daunting weight on your shoulders just remember to take things one step at a time. Honestly you could be struggling with anything from mental health to figuring what you need to do to land that job that you have always dreamed of or even a combination of multiple things. It doesn’t make a difference what stage you are at in life there will always be something going on that you need to push through and get to the other side.

On a daily basis I have to remind myself one step at a time because I have to focus the next few or several years on retraining my hand to work like it used to so that I can pursue my next goal. To me spending my days doing retraining of my hand and re-wiring some crossed pathways is usually frustrating and at the end if the day does not seem like I’m taking steps forward but every once in a while I notice a difference that makes it worth it. I have to remind myself all the time that one day these countless hours will be worth it and I will be chasing the next dream.

Whenever you get overwhelmed by that bigger picture. Take a step back for a minute and think about the next one or two smaller steps you need to complete to get closer to the end goal. Focusing on your smaller yet just as equal successes along the way is important. Without taking the smaller steps along the way you wont reach the bigger goal i promise. Celebrate the little wins even if that’s just doing something for yourself or some well deserved self-care. In this world everyone is watching for your mistakes not your successes and that’s why you have to celebrate them yourself.

check out the other iarts of this collaberation at:

Tajwar Fatma https://lifeaswehaveneverknownit.wordpress.com/

Jane Love http://www.harmoniousjoy.com/

Jothish Joseph https://jothishjoseph.wordpress.com/

Barb Caffrey https://elfyverse.wordpress.com/

Nicolle K https://storiesofahsi.wordpress.com/

Ajibola Sunday https://ajibolasunday.wordpress.com/

Sonyo Estavillo https://lilpickmeup.com/

Mylene Orillo https://myleneorillo.com/

Camilla Motte http://www.momsonthego.com/

Manal Ahmad https://thatgirl196.wordpress.com/

Ipuna Black https://ipunablack.com/

Sadaf Siddiqi https://sadafsiddiqi.wordpress.com/

Divyang Shah https://ithinkmyway.wordpress.com/about/

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Finding Strength

One never really knows how strong they are until you have no other choice. I believe that strength comes from within, yes we all have some sort of support through trying times, but the ability to keep pushing forward and not giving up comes from you. Personally I have been through two detrimental events that truly set the bar for the stronger person I am today. These two events were the stroke and losing one of the most important people in my life. I doubt that anything else will ever compare in difficulty and at times am still amazed that I got through the worst of it. Yet on top of this adversity made me the strongest.

I am so thankful that I grew up being different and being the kid that was more of a lone wolf than anything else. Yes being the outcast in school made things a little more difficult at times, but I think it made me stronger. I enjoyed being the nerd that did homework at recess and lunch so that I had less to take home at night. I was like that from grade school up into college, but in college us nerds got together during spares and all wrote papers and studied like big nerds. This I’d one of those situations where being very focused on the end goal and not having much of a desire to socialize came into play.

If nothing else losing someone very close to me taught me to function with a piece of my heart and soul missing and still conquer each task at hand. Grief is a roller coaster just as everyone says, you never know when it will hit and it can be one heck of a ride. To this day I’m surprised that I got through the worst of it.

Most people I encounter pity me when they find out in still recovering from my stroke 3.5 years later. Flat out I wouldn’t be able to see the light in each situation and have more good days than bad if the stroke and major loss had not happened in the sane year. It is also due to both these events that I understand people who say,” you have to know the darkness to see the light”. It took me years to understand what they meant but I never would have believed it without the events of 2014. With the bad comes the good, make sure to remember this through the tougher chapters of life.

Tajwar Fatma https://lifeaswehaveneverknownit.wordpress.com/

Ipuna Black  https://ipunablack.com/

Jane Love http://www.harmoniousjoy.com/

Jothish Joseph https://jothishjoseph.wordpress.com/

Barb Caffrey https://elfyverse.wordpress.com/

Nicolle K https://storiesofahsi.wordpress.com/

Ajibola Sunday https://ajibolasunday.wordpress.com/

Sonyo Estavillo  https://lilpickmeup.com/

Mylene Orillo https://myleneorillo.com/

Camilla Motte http://www.momsonthego.com/

You Are Worth It

You are worth every, dream, desire, and aspiration you have, so please don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. There will away be  people who don’t believe in your goals, but it’s not appropriate for anyone to tell you that you are not worthy of something for any reason at all. If someone tries to pull this stuff with you I hope that you are able to easily remove said person or persons from your life because statements like these are toxic and can be quite damaging to your being. If you let these statements go on long enough that you start to believe these statements it will mess with the way you think and may take even longer to fix.

I’ve been there so I fully understand how much these things can affect someone and how much longer it takes to fix. People like this were actually the beginning of that open door policy on friendships that I mentioned in a post earlier this week. We live in a wold where outside of our own heads every force is working against you so you can’t let your own thought process morph and be fighting against you as well. There is more than enough negativity and set backs in life that you don’t need anyone, friends, family, or mentors hating on you in any way shape or form.

In a world where we are one of billions of people we dp need to have goals to strive for to make a mark in the world. Instead of trying to become famous focus on becoming the best in your industry whatever that may be and your name will eventually speak for itself. You can do anything you put your mind to so get out there and go to great things.

Cheers,

Addy

Find Your Flame 

We all have an internal drive or flame that motivates us to do the things we do no matter your job or industry. Getting to a point where I only have roughly six thousand words left to write into the book has relit my flame. It’s completely normal to go through times in day to day life where that flame is out and you may be unsure as to why you’re doing anything in life.my best suggestion would be to start doing one thing each day that you enjoy until you find something or multiple things that help you feel a sense of fulfillment each day.

Up until last week I found it difficult to get more than two or three parts written in a week, but as soon as I reached the two thirds done point it has become easy to wrote three to five parts in a day. It’s possible I could finish the draft this week and be onto editing which is extremely exciting. Now that I’m so close to being done I’m finding it very difficult to put down my writings and function as a normal human. I’m living off two pots of coffee and food I can heat up or make within ten or fifteen minutes in an attempt to finish my book as soon as possible so I can get to editing.

There have been many periods where I had no flame. I would say the worse two were my last two concussions where I had a migraine for a couple months during both concussions. I was in enough pain I found it difficult to think let alone function. Thankfully I’ve healed and am not dealing with that anymore.

I really mean it when I say start doing one thing you love each day you will find new joys abs old joys in life. If you really truly enjoy the activities you choose I bet that you will start to feel better and you will likily be inspired to push through and continue those things or start new ones. I thoroughly enjoy weeks where I work on getting back to basics because for me they usually include a lot of meditation, fitness and of course writing.

Cheers , 

Addy 

It’s Your Life

You are the only one who has to live with each and every decision that you have made and will make. Who cares if you’re being judged for doing things your way and not the same as everyone else. If all your friends jumped off a bridge would you do it to? I sure hope not. You don’t have to live up to other people think you should do with your life. Instead you should go live your dreams and start trusing your gut through situations. 

Thankfully my whole life I’ve had great supports abd a small portion of my family encouraging me to do what ever makes me happy and gets me closer to my goals. When I cut a lot of people out of my life at the beginning of the year the nay sayers were on the list along with the ones that say, ” if you do said thing I’ll be disappointed in you”. I’m sorry but I think I’m going to continue to live my way and given that I don’t fit your perfect family image isn’t my issue it’s yours. Life is too short to keep people around that are unsupportive of who you are as a person. 

Please chase your dreams, if you have to work a minimum wage job to save up to peruse those dreams than do it. After you come up with a plan and you can do it financially go for it. It is much better to try and not male it in the end than to not even attempt and live a life full of regrets. I happen to have a lot of things I want to do kind of like a bucket list. I started crossing things off that list last year.

People when making a life decision always trust your guy if you get a bad or negative feeling about it it’s probably the wrong choice. You may not even have evidence of something being the wrong choice, but your body still tells you not to do it.

Cheers, 

Addy 

It’s Okay to Have Bad Days

Not only is it OK to have bad days, but sometimes you also need to let yourself have them.life comes with ups and lows we just have to roll with the punches. Like today I was a 7/10 instead of the 10/10 I’ve been for the previous week and a bit. Despite not being on my A Game there was even some awesome hand recovery today, my thumb has become more opposable. It’s been a struggle to get my thumb more mobile that it was from the beginning. It took years to be able to open up my affected hand and actually pick something up without opening it up woth the use of my good hand.

There are days where you aren’t going to feel 100% and it is perfectly normal. Yes we would all like to pretend that life is just an upward line on a graph when more realistically that line we call life is more of a zig zag. There are also endless reasons that you could be off your game. For me today I’m pretty sure that I’m off my game because I haven’t really been sleeping over the last few days. I need to slow down and stop trying to over achieve with my book. I think I need to take a few days to a week off the book and focus on other outlets so I can start getting back to a more regular sleep pattern.

On the upside of being on my B-Game I got some more movement out of my relentlessly stubborn thumb. From the start of this recovery almost three years ago my thumb was the hardest to get to move in any way, shape, or form. This makes improved dexterity in my thumb freaking amazing, even though I don’t feel the greatest. Internally I’m really excited about this, but on the outside I look like I could be dead on the inside. Maybe if I get some more sleep tonight hopefully I’ll see more progress tomorrow. Also if I’m lucky I’ll wake up with a a headache and improved vision, it would be pretty exciting.

The Rewarding Aspects Of Recovery 

This recovery process has definitely had its up and downs, but lately it’s been mostly just ups. having a cut up optic nerve and recovering from a left side hemiplegia I’m supposed to be retraining both my eyes and my left side. I can finally say I’m able to train them both. this has taken so time to get to a stage in my physical recovery to be able to adjust to my blind spots. to be exact it’s taken 34.5 months to get to this stage. In order to train my eyes my opthomologist insit’s that I play action video games with violence to train my eyes to move quickly. Up until a couple days ago my hand couldn’t keep up to the game.

Finally having my hand at a stage where I can train to aspects at the same time is the best feeling in the world. This is definitely a two birds with one stone situation. It’s guaranteed to feel great when you acomplished something you’ve been working towards for so long. Yes I’ve had my plateaus with no progress what so ever, but I’ve passed each of those points and proved that it’s worth it to not give up. as long you you believe in the process and take the needed steps to reach your goal you can male it happen. The finishing touches in this recovery could take between a few months and a few more years, but I’m determined to get there.

Please Fellow People stop giving up on yourselves and your dreams. If you have a goal start by writing out the different steps to achieve it and get off your butt and make it happen. I will admit that yeah I’ve definitely been discouraged and thought of giving up on this whole process. The only thing that kept me on the path to recovery is the fact that I have a list of hundreds of things I want to do before I die. All of the things on that list require two functioning arms, legs, and hands. Sure I’m not exactly where I’d like to be right now, but I’m a hell of a lot closer than I was the day after surgery.

Cheers,