One Step At A Time


No matter the task at hand if it ever feels like a daunting weight on your shoulders just remember to take things one step at a time. Honestly you could be struggling with anything from mental health to figuring what you need to do to land that job that you have always dreamed of or even a combination of multiple things. It doesn’t make a difference what stage you are at in life there will always be something going on that you need to push through and get to the other side.

On a daily basis I have to remind myself one step at a time because I have to focus the next few or several years on retraining my hand to work like it used to so that I can pursue my next goal. To me spending my days doing retraining of my hand and re-wiring some crossed pathways is usually frustrating and at the end if the day does not seem like I’m taking steps forward but every once in a while I notice a difference that makes it worth it. I have to remind myself all the time that one day these countless hours will be worth it and I will be chasing the next dream.

Whenever you get overwhelmed by that bigger picture. Take a step back for a minute and think about the next one or two smaller steps you need to complete to get closer to the end goal. Focusing on your smaller yet just as equal successes along the way is important. Without taking the smaller steps along the way you wont reach the bigger goal i promise. Celebrate the little wins even if that’s just doing something for yourself or some well deserved self-care. In this world everyone is watching for your mistakes not your successes and that’s why you have to celebrate them yourself.

check out the other iarts of this collaberation at:

Tajwar Fatma https://lifeaswehaveneverknownit.wordpress.com/

Jane Love http://www.harmoniousjoy.com/

Jothish Joseph https://jothishjoseph.wordpress.com/

Barb Caffrey https://elfyverse.wordpress.com/

Nicolle K https://storiesofahsi.wordpress.com/

Ajibola Sunday https://ajibolasunday.wordpress.com/

Sonyo Estavillo https://lilpickmeup.com/

Mylene Orillo https://myleneorillo.com/

Camilla Motte http://www.momsonthego.com/

Manal Ahmad https://thatgirl196.wordpress.com/

Ipuna Black https://ipunablack.com/

Sadaf Siddiqi https://sadafsiddiqi.wordpress.com/

Divyang Shah https://ithinkmyway.wordpress.com/about/

Alt. Ed. Vs. Mainstream

Being an alternate education graduate who has seen both sides of the education system I do not understand why there is so much stigma towards alternate education. In mainstream education everyone is set to learn material at the same pace and only in one way. Knowing that we all learn different ways and at different speeds I believe that it is complete B.S. that mainstream is still the Norm in today’s day. If I had not switched to alternate education before my stroke I would have been put an entire year behind once I had my stroke and that would have been really unfortunate.

My Alternate education program was essentially distance education held in a classroom where there was  a teacher and support staff if you needed help. For those who had jobs we were able to schedule school around work, which was really convenient for those who needed to work. Even taking a semester off of actual school work and working during my grade twelve year I finished school early and got to chill out for a couple of months before my convocation and exams. Yes I had to be internally motivated and figuratively kicked in the butt some days, but Alt. was definitely the way to go for me.

I have never needed someone to give a lesson out of the textbook for a course when I can literally read it word for word by myself. In most mainstream classes I finished the worksheets and assignments for the class while the teacher was giving the lesson while I pretended to follow along. I think it’s time we stopped treating mainstream as the norm and start normalizing alternate education because we all learn differently. If I had always been able to learn at my own pace I probably could have graduated a year or two early full of facts I would never use in adult life.

Lost In The Abyss of Life

Growing up in a city it is easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of things. It is also very easy to feel insignificant or unheard when you get stuck in a rut and nothing stops except you. You may not know this, but everything you do does make a difference to at least somebody whether that’s a friend, lover, or boss. When your lost look for your passion or values that should lead you to a viable option to move forward.

When you feel lost it can become quite easy to lose the motivation to do anything and start living without any intentions, which can result in aimlessly floating through each day.  his can also be a very difficult cycle to break after a while so try to stay out of it. I would suggest that one tries to set and achieve even just two things a day. These things could be anything from creative things or more professional related things it doesn’t matter. When I’m super lost and have no motivation to do anything I tend to make art and attempt to deal with anything that could prevent me from moving forward.

If you are really lost and have no clue what to do with life look for your passions. If you are unsure as to what you are passionate about start looking for the things that you have always  wanted to do in life or things you have thought about trying. If nothing else this should give you a good step in the right direction. If you find out your interests you should see a pattern that should lead you to an area or field of focus too.

Make each day count because you never know when what you have will be gone.

 

Are You Self Evaluating Your Life?

You are the only person out there who knows the truest version of yourself. In turn would be on of the best to evaluate if you’re honest with yourself. I have always been fairly self-aware and embrace the flaws I have instead of lying to myself about them. Being able to break down your actions and behaviors can be difficult, but once you do you will stop relying as much on other people’s opinions. If you are able to acknowledge and accept your flaws you are much less likely to get emotional or overreact when someone points these things out.

Self evaluation and self-reflection join hand in hand in this process as it takes a lot of analysis. The first few times it may get a little strenuous recalling and breaking down your actions, but it does get easier. At first once you realize the action or habit that needs improvement you may be a little surprised. Before getting to a point of excepting my flaws I had to explore the root of these flaws and either fix them or just accept them and try to move on. Self evaluation is not easy to do completely honestly at all times, but it will help out in the future.

I had taken workshops on being self-aware and mindful before the stroke, but it was not until after my stroke that I implemented the teachings into my own life. When one spends more hours than they would like to admit sitting in a hospital bed in a room lacking any visual stimulation there is lots of time for self-reflection and evaluation. There was enough time to calculate the hours I needed to put into each part of my recovery to meet my weekly recovery goals. Consistent evaluation in everything I do is what got me to where I am today.

It’s Already June

Personally I cannot believe how fast this year is going by, yes up until a couple of weeks I was pretty much engulfed in my book, but I’m still surprised. I hope this year has been as good to each of you as it has to me. So far I think I can make 2017 as my best year yet even with the set backs. If you asked me a year ago where I thought I would be today there is no way that I would have seen myself where I am. A year ago I never expected that I would have gotten my book written, edited, and published, but here I am.

This year has been overflowing with love and joy, after sending a bunch of friendships to the chopping block at the beginning of the year there was no room for the doubters, haters, and naysayers. I am finally at that glorious stage of positive vibes only and everyone knows that I will not stand for any negativity. to tie into my last post this year the standards were not just raised they were doubled. I got to a point where I needed my friendships to be all or nothing, either here for the long haul or non-existent.

Other than writing a book and starting my second one there has been a lot of time to shed some light and bring clarity upon what I want from life. I have come to realize that I have several options depending on where things fork out down the road. It will truly come down to time and circumstance when I need to make those calls. This year I have realized that I am exactly where I need to be to reach any and all of my dreams and that has been quite a relief.

How has your year been going so far?

Finding Sanction

Growing up with a seizure disorder and not having that fix until my second brain surgery; downtime has always been important. I have always had to live my life in a way that kept my stress levels in check up until the issue was fixed. Making sure that there is time in our busy days to unwind a little bit can be extremely difficult at any stage in life.

Knowing how important relaxing and unwinding is I made sure that I turned my space into a personal sanctuary because thankfully I have an oddly narrow room that I could fit a nice high-backed reading chair and a bookshelf in. Pairing comfy furniture with a mellowed out paint tone and some bright art I  got my sanction. It would be more ideal if the whole room was sound proofed so there was a polite silence, but let’s be honest I will take what I can get.

Being someone who has usually been able to take time to unwind also meant having a fairly boring scheduled childhood. Yes I got to unwind, but that’s also because the schedule looks almost identical from week to week even into my teens to prevent more seizures. NOw that I do not have these seizures there are times where I don’t live up to a schedule like clockwork and it’s an oddity to me. I enjoy the high stress super busy times because they always leave me on the edge of my seat waiting for the next thing, but don’t keep things that way often anymore. Given that we are all unique and different people all of us are going to function best through different methods with different stress levels and you really need to find what works best for you and your situation.

Why Do You Do It?

No really, why do you do any of the things that you do in a day? whether you realize it or not just like the characters in the books you read we have internal and external motivators as well. Unless you are mindful and observe each thing you do a lot of people never look past the face value of doing something then wonder why they are stuck or in a rut. If you ever want to make sense of your actions figure out what that motivator is and things should be more clear.

In some senses people are like sheep rarely knowing why they are doing something, just doing as they are told fairly obediently. How different would your day-to-day actions look if you took the time to analyze the motivator behind them? Personally It looks fairly close to how things do now versus what they looked like before I took steps toward being a lot more mindful in every aspect of life. A year ago I wast trying to fit in with the rest of the world working an eight to four job that made me hate my life, so honestly I’m glad I analyzed and took steps in the right direction.

Instead of doing things because society expects me to I do things that get me closer to my next goal, which right now is the writing of two novels. Right now I have to keep in mind the bigger goal of going back to school in about a year for about six years minimum. I’m trying to keep myself as busy as possible in order to be successful when I jump into school course loads. For me the motivation behind each of my actions is “The bigger picture”.