Create The Life You Want

No matter your beliefs or stance on anything you’re not going to magically start living the life you have always dreamed of unless you take action and start working towards your next goal.

Yes you aren’t going to be the next big thing over night, but who cares everybody has to start somewhere right. No matter the task at hand you should approach all your goals with a “one step at a time” mindset.

You may think that your dreams are too big or far-fetched, but if you broke it down to achievable and realistic baby steps that you could start taking whenever you see fit.

Yes your dream may have to be your side hustle to your main job until you can fully supplement your income and pay all your bills with your side hustle but as I was saying it is doable. You have to start small before you can go big remember that.

You might have to work a job that you hate that pays the bills for a while I’m sorry this one’s just reality. No matter the goal if you take small steps toward it each day you will get closer even if it is just one step at a lime.

It doesn’t matter what your goals are if you want to achieve greatness in life you are going to have to learn how to hustle in each and every way. No more of this half your effort stuff you need to start putting your full effort into all the things you do and really set the life you want to live into motion.

No part of getting to the top is going to be easy whether it’s a personal goal, health goal, or a career goal believe me I’ve been recovering from paralysis for roughly 45 months and likely have at least a few years before I reach a full recovery.

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Thank You: Neuro Science

Had I never read The Brain That Changes Itself when I was in sixth grade I never would have known that overcoming my stroke and hemiplegia years down the road was a possibility. Each chapter of the book covers a different yet amazing recovery from various things. My sixth grade teacher thought I was crazy for trying to read something so complex at a young age and was convinced I could not understand a thing. This may come as a shock to some (that teacher included), but even though I was only eleven at the time, if I found a word I did not know and could not figure out on my own I used this magical thing called a dictionary.
That book was actually the first thing to ever capture my full attention fuelling me with a desire to learn more. If I had Never read this book I likely would not have agreed to a second brain surgery with a significantly higher risk factor. I knew that no matter what happened or how many years it took to recover that I could do it. Without neuro Science there wouldn’t be neurology or neuro surgeons. Yes I am still recovering from my stroke and hemiplegia forty-five months later and probably at least a few years more, but one day I will get there.

For those of you that are amazed by the attitude I have had throughout my recovery journey and would like to understand it I urge you to read this book. If nothing else I bet that you will gain a new perspective and quite possibly some inspiration to apply to other aspects of life. I’m thankful for the various levels of neuro Science because without them all I would still have seizures at least a couple of times a week and no quality of life. Yes daily activities are a struggle as I retrain my hand but it is a much better trade-off because one day I will be fully recovered.

Just a reminder other than the monthly colaberation pieces I write I am always looking for topics to write about for you guys, If there is anything you would like me write about leave me a comment and I will see what I can do.

If you want check out the other collaborators pieces and blogs:

Tajwar Fatma https://lifeaswehaveneverknownit.wordpress.com/

Ipuna Black  https://ipunablack.com/

Jane Love http://www.harmoniousjoy.com/

Jothish Joseph https://jothishjoseph.wordpress.com/

Barb Caffrey https://elfyverse.wordpress.com/

Nicolle K https://storiesofahsi.wordpress.com/

Ajibola Sunday https://ajibolasunday.wordpress.com/

Sonyo Estavillo  https://lilpickmeup.com/

Mylene Orillo https://myleneorillo.com/

Camilla Motte http://www.momsonthego.com/

Jainey_Nessa Blogging Awards

Thank you Jane from http://www.Harmoniousjoy.com For the very generous awards nominations this year I am beyond honoured to receive both of these blogging awards. Honestly I do not really know what to say, when I got word of the nominations I was actually ready to put my pen down for good, I feel like I’m probably not allowed to do that now.

Again thank you Jane for the nomination.

Find Your Happy 

If you’ve been around for any length of time you probably understand that life happens and when it does you can lose your happiness among many other things. Lately I have been trying to find the abundance of happiness and joy that used to flow through me like blood. I’m sorry I haven’t been writing that much, but at the sane time I am not because I am trying to get back to my happy.

It was not until after I was done my book that I had realized that I lost the what was once contagious joy and happiness that radiated from me even through times of pain and sorrow. If you have been following my blog for a while you probably noticed that once the book was done my posting frequency dissipated.

A big part of writing my book was acknowledging all the things I had avoided dealing with during that time frame as my recovery was enough at the time I did not have the time or the energy to tackle anything else other than day-to-day life. Now into the better half of my recovery there has been a lot of reflection and time to accept, feel, and work through all those other things. Most days it’s at least a few hours of occupational/ physio exercises but after that I could spend a couple of hours staring at a wall while I do hand strengthening exercises. Over the last few months there has been a lot of healing so all that wall staring must be a good thing haha. I do not know that I’m ready to dive into my next book and set a deadline for it, but I am slowly getting back into writing.

No matter what life throws at you as you trek through your various journeys remember that you are not alone and that if need be you can modify the path to your goals to better suit your needs. It Is not how fast you make the journey, but the fact that you did it. Who cares if you reach your goal in two years or five years, the chances of you getting a prize for reaching the goal in a shorter period of time are slim unless you’re an Olympian.

Move On

When you are unhappy with something in your life or maybe unhappy with most of your life it should be clear to you that you need to make some changes. We as people often forget that nothing lasts forever as well as the fact that we do posses the abilities to make the necessary changes in your life. There are many ways that you can do this. In the past I have shown that my favourite way to do this Is to pack a bag or two with necessities and my laptop and with minimal notice hit the road. Growing up epileptic every week of my life pretty much looked the same for years on end so now as an adult when I crave a change in scenery it is a little bit more drastic of a change.

Many people say that you cannot just up and leave and start over. This is a lie. It may be expensive unless you can sell off your possessions for a decent price, but not impossible. Knowing that I hope to start fresh and move out of my current city in four or so years I’m really trying to keep everything to a minimum. I’m lucky that there are a few charities in the area that are always looking for donations of house hold items and gently used clothing. I give away a large bag of stuff at least every other month of things I no longer use. Before the stroke I had much more of an attachment to my things so I had a lot more stuff and it was more difficult to get rid of stuff. Now that’s a lot different other than my laptop, camera, and art and writing  supplies I could walk away from everything and not feel a thing.

Honestly most people go for less drastic change when they need to switch things up in life. For example dying your hair or getting a new haircut. Some go for a minor wardrobe update and do some shopping. Others take up a new sport to add to their already existing workout routine. While some people rarely change at all and just take a week or so long vacation when they need a change. For some these methods work. When something no longer works or fits your needs or lifestyle do not be afraid to change and move on.

Self Acceptance and Self Love

Self acceptance and self-love in my opinion are more important than most realize. For example some people are so co dependent that they forget to be their own whole and unique person. Then again growing up as an only child I learned how to entertain myself without the help of anyone else. I have also watched people who grow into these false realities because they never accepted who they were as a person and in their forties do not understand why they are completely and utterly miserable with every aspect of their lives.

Growing up without siblings there is an abundance of self-reflection time. Let me tell you sooner or later that leads one into a path of is this who I really am or is that. This also lead to having full-out debates with myself out loud arguing both sides of the topic from time to time and still to this day. If Being an only child ever came with a benefit it was that I always had to be okay with who I was growing up because most of the time it was just me. People always pity us only children for not having that sibling bond, but I see now as an adult that there are some unfair advantages such as: enjoying alone time, more independence, and often growing up as your own person instead of in someone else’s shadow.

I have known in my heart who I was as a person since I was just five years old so I guess self acceptance has always been a part of my life even when I hid it from the outside world. Once you accept and embrace who you really are as a person I guarantee the right people and the right opportunities in life will begin to show up. Yes certain people will also probably walk out on you, but don’t worry they weren’t supposed to be there anyway.

Check out the other collaboration pieces at the blogs below:

Ajibola Sunday https://ajibolasunday.wordpress.com/

Barb Caffrey https://elfyverse.wordpress.com/

Camilla Motte http://www.momsonthego.com/

Divyang Shah https://ithinkmyway.wordpress.com/about/

Ipuna Black https://ipunablack.com/

Jane Love http://www.harmoniousjoy.com/

Joel A. Scott http://www.joelascott.com/blog/

Jothish Joseph https://jothishjoseph.wordpress.com/

Manal Ahmad https://thatgirl196.wordpress.com/

Mylene Orillo https://myleneorillo.com/

Nicolle K https://storiesofahsi.wordpress.com/

Sadaf Siddiqi https://sadafsiddiqi.wordpress.com/

Sonyo Estavillo https://lilpickmeup.com/

Tajwar Fatma https://lifeaswehaveneverknownit.wordpress.com/

Successful VS. Fulfilling

As you probably already know everyone is looking for something in life. Some are looking for love, fame or success, But I am just looking for fulfillment. if you’re looking for success you are going to constantly the opinions of others and their judgements toward you, whereas a fulfilling life comes from within by meeting your own standards and expectations. I’m sorry, but none of my goals in life need to be approved or applauded by anyone other than myself. If you are happy and not causing anyone any harm why would anyone else’s opinion matter.

With social media it seems that we have come to a point where most people are posting play by plays of their life silently begging for their friends’ approval. Some of you may even remember a time in our lives before social media where nobody knew when you were doing anything unless you had called someone and made plans with them. Nobody knew when you were getting ice cream or going to the gym and back then it did not affect their day.

I know it might take a miracle, but I would love to see a higher percentage of people in the world in search of fulfillment instead of success.  People seem to have forgotten that you yourself are the only person that will truly understand your great accomplishments. Nobody has experienced the same things as you so it is virtually impossible for them to understand why your goals are what they are. With that alone you should stop letting other people determine how well you live your life and start judging your accomplishments yourself.

Get out there, fulfill your soul’s needs and be happy.