Finding Strength

One never really knows how strong they are until you have no other choice. I believe that strength comes from within, yes we all have some sort of support through trying times, but the ability to keep pushing forward and not giving up comes from you. Personally I have been through two detrimental events that truly set the bar for the stronger person I am today. These two events were the stroke and losing one of the most important people in my life. I doubt that anything else will ever compare in difficulty and at times am still amazed that I got through the worst of it. Yet on top of this adversity made me the strongest.

I am so thankful that I grew up being different and being the kid that was more of a lone wolf than anything else. Yes being the outcast in school made things a little more difficult at times, but I think it made me stronger. I enjoyed being the nerd that did homework at recess and lunch so that I had less to take home at night. I was like that from grade school up into college, but in college us nerds got together during spares and all wrote papers and studied like big nerds. This I’d one of those situations where being very focused on the end goal and not having much of a desire to socialize came into play.

If nothing else losing someone very close to me taught me to function with a piece of my heart and soul missing and still conquer each task at hand. Grief is a roller coaster just as everyone says, you never know when it will hit and it can be one heck of a ride. To this day I’m surprised that I got through the worst of it.

Most people I encounter pity me when they find out in still recovering from my stroke 3.5 years later. Flat out I wouldn’t be able to see the light in each situation and have more good days than bad if the stroke and major loss had not happened in the sane year. It is also due to both these events that I understand people who say,” you have to know the darkness to see the light”. It took me years to understand what they meant but I never would have believed it without the events of 2014. With the bad comes the good, make sure to remember this through the tougher chapters of life.

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28 comments

  1. Thank you for sharing your story, Addy.
    You are truly a strong inspiration to many.

    “With the bad comes the good, make sure to remember this through the tougher chapters of life.”
    I totally agree with this. So true!

    P.S. Yay! I got another nerd buddy!!! Let’s nerd it out TOGETHER. 😀

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  2. Get it, Addison! Yeah! I agree with you! “One never really knows how strong they are until you have no other choice.” I love your positive attitude. You are such an inspiration! I’ll get on your book when kiddies return to school! ❤️​

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  3. “Grief is a roller coaster just as everyone says, you never know when it will hit and it can be one heck of a ride.” I really loved this line and agree that grief is a roller coaster and the hardest part is that you never know when it will hit you again. Grief comes in waves, but having gone through cycles of grief I can look back to say that it has made me stronger. I also think that being a lone wolf is something I can equally relate to. I was never the popular kid at school and as a result, found myself with my nose in books. My love for reading and for being creative, but alone I think served to help me as a writer. Everything we face in our lives make us stronger. We can either crumble under the pressure and weight of circumstances and the pressures of life or we can become stronger as a result of it. ❤

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  4. Hey Addison, I really enjoyed reading about your take on strength. I, too, lost someone very close to me– my mom. That’s another story for another time, but I made it through. Illness and death is difficult, but they both will show you your strong or weak side. “you have to know the darkness to see the light ” Absolutely, makes total sense to me. The light always shines through darkness. Everyone goes through trials, but they can strengthen us. I’m glad you are being restored. I will add you to my prayers. #keepwriting XX

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  5. Addison, your story inspires me every time. It is not so easy to get over death or any kind of disease. You’ve outgrown from your life challenges, we all can see it. You are an inspiration. By the way i was a nerd too, doing homework at recess. This is a powerful post.

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  6. What a great post Addy, thanks for sharing your real life experience on how to find and utilize strength to triumph over life adversity. I commend your courage, as you utilized it to beat those two daunting blows that hit you. Stay strong and stay blessed.

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  7. Addison, I’m glad I was finally able to get over here and read. (I wanted to, sooner. Two-day migraine last week, then heat exhaustion, slowed me but did not stop me.)

    I think you have made lemonade from a big pile of lemons, here. (But who are these people who don’t realize that it’s going to take time to recover from a stroke? My goodness. I feel like throttling those folks on your behalf.)

    While I agree with the other lines folks have pointed out, I liked this one the best: “Yes being the outcast in school made things a little more difficult at times, but I think it made me stronger.”

    I felt like saying, “Outcasts of the world unite!” 😀 (I, too, always felt like an outcast. And yes, I think it made me stronger over time.)

    Anyway, you keep doing what you are. It’s obviously working. (And please, point those who don’t understand that recovery takes time in my direction any time you like. I will show them the error of their ways, but gently…as a fellow traveler on the road.)

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