If someone wants to be a part of your life they will make the effort and you will never be left questioning if they want to be a part of your life or not. If for any reason you start to doubt someone’s want to be in your life you are already getting a signal that they might not so listen to that intuition. If you are constantly chasing everyone in your life to stay you are bound to end up with a group of people who truly no longer want to be there for you and that is an unfortunate situation that you can avoid.
This is why I have an open door policy on all friendships. What I mean by this is that if someone wants to leave I will gladly hold the door open for them. I understand that as i grow, change, and focus on other aspects of life friendships grow and change as well so these adaptations in friendships are not always a bad thing. Yes losing certain friendships will hurt, but in the long rn it will be more beneficial to both involved parties. You will feel a lot better letting go of a friendship that no longer fits in the end.
Stop chasing friendship, relationships, or anything else for that matter. Non of these things are a one way street and if you are always putting in all the effort you are going to find it exhausting. You do not need people in your life that don’t understand and appreciate having your unique self around.